Friend Fatima: Bosses

Fatima Oubaid

Q: My boss is really starting to get on my nerves. He is making it to where I absolutely hate my job, which sucks because I love what I’m doing and can see myself going far with my career position. I don’t like that he is taking my love for my job away from me, but I just can’t seem to get around it. How can I love my job and ignore my boss at the same time?

A: Sometimes when you don’t have an enjoyable boss it’s really hard to enjoy your job. No matter how amazing your work is if you’re surrounded by negative energy it’s going to be hard to focus on the positive energy.

My advice to you would be to try and see if you can transfer to a different location but still do the same type of work. If that’s not an option then maybe look for a new job in the same field. You never know, you could find a job that you love even more than what you’re doing now.

If, however, you absolutely aren’t ready to get rid of where you’re at right now then find co-workers to help vent some of that toxic energy out. Sometimes finding people who feel the same way you do and going off on a tangent helps relieve some of that toxic mood you may be feeling.

Focus on why you love your job and what it is about it that makes you go to it everyday. Don’t let one person ruin what you love doing. Yes he may be an awful boss and be treating you poorly but unless you’re willing to do something about it (like talk to HR or someone higher up than your boss) nothing is really going to change. Sometimes no matter how much we don’t like working with rotten people you just have to suck it up and deal with it. It may not be the perfect ending but it’s a start. He may even leave before you know it.