Friend Fatima: Valentine’s Day

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Q: So I just started talking to this guy not too long ago but with Valentine’s Day coming up I don’t know if I should get him something or not. What do you think?

A: I think that all depends on what kind of relationship you guys are trying to build. If it’s just a casual fling or a friends with benefits kind of thing, then I wouldn’t worry too much about it. Spend the day together, or whatever, but I wouldn’t make a big deal about it.

On the other hand, if you guys are trying to eventually build a serious relationship then it wouldn’t hurt to get him something small to show you care about him and enjoy having him in your life. But when I say small, I mean it. Don’t go overboard.

In my opinion so many people over think Valentine’s Day. Yes we should recognize the people we love in our life, but do we really need flashy presents or dates to do so? Sometimes it’s the little things that matter the most. The smallest gesture can leave more of an impact than a huge gesture, and you don’t need much to show someone you care about them.

So if you want him to know you truly care and are serious about him, then sure go ahead and get him something. But make sure he feels the same way back. It would be very awkward if you showed up with a thoughtful Valentine’s Day gift and he had nothing for you.